Dying for Sex — What Happens When You Stop Waiting to Live?

What would you do if you found out you were dying?

Would you cling tighter to the life you built… or burn it down and do everything you’ve been too scared, too polite, or too repressed to do?

In this week’s podcast episode, I sat down with Emmy-winning producer Nikki Boyer to talk about Dying for Sex—the Wondery podcast turned Hulu series that tells the real-life story of her best friend Molly, who was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer and decided to live the hell out of the rest of her life.

And when I say live, I mean LIVE. We’re talking bold choices, sexual liberation, clown sex (yes, you read that right), and the kind of friendship that’s so profound it feels sacred.

This wasn’t just about sex. This was about reclaiming a body that was breaking down. It was about healing shame. It was about love and loss and making meaning out of the unbearable. Nikki didn’t just support Molly through it—she helped tell the story that now has millions of people thinking differently about intimacy, illness, grief, and joy.

What Dying for Sex Teaches Us About Friendship, Loss, and Letting Go

One of the biggest things that hit me in this conversation was Nikki’s vulnerability. She talked about what it was like to be loved so deeply by Molly that it almost felt like too much. That kind of unconditional love? Most people will never experience it.

It cracked her wide open.

It made me think about the way we show up for people. The barriers we put up. The friendships we keep surface-level because we’re scared of getting hurt or rejected or being too much. And how Molly’s story gives us permission to go all in while we still have time.

Let’s Talk About the Sex (Because We Need To)

The podcast is called Dying for Sex for a reason. Molly went on a full-blown sexual journey. She said yes to things most of us wouldn’t even say out loud. And while it was hilarious (seriously, you’ll hear about mortuary clown sex), it was also deeply empowering.

This wasn’t shock value. It was healing. It was pleasure as protest. It was rewriting her story before it ended. And the best part? She didn’t judge a single person along the way. Nikki said Molly had the biggest heart for people who felt weird or broken or cast out—and let’s be real, we’re all a little bit of that.

Dying Is Awkward—So Let’s Talk About It Anyway

Nikki is so real about death. She said she’s good at grief, which sounds wild, but she is. She talked about the importance of showing up for someone when they’re dying. Really showing up—not hiding behind platitudes or pretending like everything’s fine.

And she said something I’ll never forget:

"Your body doesn’t fail—it prepares."

It reframed how I think about death entirely. And if you’ve ever avoided talking about it because it feels too dark or too awkward… this episode might be exactly what you need.

Final Takeaway: Stop Waiting

The thing that Molly teaches us—even now—is that life doesn’t wait. Neither should we.

If you have a story to tell, tell it. If you have a dream, pursue it. If you want love, connection, sex, joy, go get it. Not tomorrow. Not when things calm down. Now.

You can listen to the full episode of Dying for Sex on my podcast, The Reinvention Room, wherever you get your shows.

And please, share this one with someone you love. You’re going to want to talk about it together.

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