You are smart. You are successful. You have a lot going for you. You've got all those boxes checked.

Me, too. 🙌

So why TF do we struggle so much with our relationships when we've accomplished so much elsewhere? 😖

Work is easy. Relationships are hard.

I had such a thought-provoking conversation with licensed relationship therapist and author, Jason VanRuler and I needed to share this with you.

What if we adjusted juuuuuuust a few things - and in particular, our mindframe? Could we find some more peace and contentment?

"We are wounded in relationships and healed in relationships." - Jason VanRuler

Here are 5 key steps to build your relationships for high-performing people:

1. Prioritizing Connection Over Traditional Measures of financial/professional success: 👯 

This idea has actually allowed me to sleep better at night, for real. 😴  Instead of focusing on what I didn't have or needed to get, I started to think about what was going right with the people in my life and using that as a measure of contentment and gratitude.

2. Vulnerability and Trust: ☺️ 

How do you know who you can trust to go deeper? This is where we can get tripped up - either unloading on the wrong people or self-isolating because we don't want to burden anybody. This is where taking risks pays off.

3. Receiving Love: 🤗 🥰 

Sheesh! Why is this so freaking hard for us? Next time you receive a compliment, just say THANK YOU and take a moment to let it internalize instead of deflecting it.

3. Investing in Relationships: 💕💕💕 

I know you are super-busy and over-stretched. However, the moment you become intentional about who you are investing in, you will reap the benefits almost immediately.

4. Redefining Success: 💰 ➡️ 👯 

Especially in the US, we romanticize money, achievement, and prestige with success. What if it isn't just about individual achievements but about the quality of relationships we invest in?

5. Taking Small Steps: 📲 

Take a moment right now and text someone on your mind just to check-in and say hey 👋 . 

But let's unpack this even more. In the latest episode of Late Learner Podcast, Jason VanRuler and I talk about topics I had never considered and will have you and I thinking differently and equip us with more tools to help.

I shared a lot I am almost too embarrassed 🙈 to publish in this one. I hope you can hear my heart ❤️ and not judge too harshly.

In this episode, you will learn:

• The impact of self-isolation.

• Seeking healing versus seeking comfort.

• 3 different levels of vulnerability.

• Why high-performers specifically struggle with relationships

• Why has vulnerability burned us?

• Does comfort keep us stuck?

• Simple ways to find "safe" people

• Redefining success

LISTEN HERE:

EP213: Why High-Performers Struggle In Relationships with Jason VanRuler

Ok, gonna call my old roommate, Anne Marie and tell her I love and miss her. 😘

xo,

Allison

P.S. End of school year got you running? Ha! Relatable!

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Ppps. Late Learner Podcast celebrated 5 years this past week! SOOOO grateful for your support. My love for it has only grown. Want to see a fun lookback?