They say that your vibe attracts your tribe.

But what if your vibe changes?

And your tribe feels more like you getting voted off the island on Survivor.

It's a gut punch. And it makes you feel like you are back in 5th grade wondering why you can't sit at the lunch table anymore talking about boys and your new lip gloss.

When I left my corporate job, I wasn't part of the tribe anymore.

No more office water-cooler chatter.

Or bumping into people in the lunch line downstairs and catching up.

Or getting on an airplane with coworkers to wine and dine clients in another city.

Or collaborating with team members to brainstorm how to win a big bid for a new client.

While these weren't TERRIBLY upsetting for me 💅 , it did give me an unsettling feeling of not knowing which boxes/categories I could check off.

Was I a stay-at-home mom? Technically, yes.

Was I unemployed? Technically, yes.

Was I still an ambitious woman even though I had no job and no energy to explore ANYTHING when I left? Technically, yes.

Each of the IDENTITIES we give ourselves and each other carry a weight, a judgment, a scoring system.

An implied code of conduct.

Not to mention the stereotypes, biases, and groupings we all carry when identifying others.

All the studies show that the strongest factor for making a decision has everything to do with the tribe you for which you belong.

Don't even get me started on my favorite topic, cults. And our political sh*t show that is playing out like a years-long WWE fight. But these are everyday cults that we are ALL part of.

So what happens when you decide to SWITCH TEAMS?

What happens when you recategorize a friendship?

What happens if you've outgrown where you are but are afraid of what's next?

We are revisiting a DEEPLY important and insightful conversation with provocative professor of psychology and neural science, Dr. Jay Van Bavel.

Here are a few highlights you are going to learn about:

• The power of social groups.

• Political partisanship and biological predisposition.

• The power of linguistics.

• Cult-like dynamics in organizations.

• Stereotyping in the political realm.

• Finding common ground for interaction.

• Psychological safety in teams.

• Political identity affecting beliefs.

• Thanksgiving dinner polarization impact.

• The Power of Us.

This is one you will want to SHARE immediately.

xo 💖 ,

Allison

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